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by ladyluxury
Thu Feb 16, 2017 4:51 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Difficulty with spouse drinking
Replies: 16
Views: 17968

Re: Difficulty with spouse drinking

were you and your wife able to work this issue out? everything you described i am going through right now and him and i are having a hard time with our "new" relationship. i am just at a point where i will just keep going to meetings, but will not go do anything with him. so i was just wondering if ...
by ladyluxury
Wed Aug 17, 2016 5:00 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

my patience and tolerance is high...ive told him i want to be with him but not at the expense to giving up everything i have overcome and still remained sober through it all...told him my sobriety is #1. i asked him for a compromise...whether or not it will work, at this point there is nothing to lo...
by ladyluxury
Sun Aug 07, 2016 4:34 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

no i dont and thats what our repeating arguement is about...that and i feel unsupported by him(selfish i know)....so that is my dilema....hope one arguement actually gets through or leave before i find out
by ladyluxury
Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:33 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

as you just said that i remembered when i was new to sobriety i was advised not to make big decisions for at least a year (i was ready to leave him) and i was soooo struggling with my relationship and talked with my sponsor at the time and she told my to replace alcohol with my bf and go through the...
by ladyluxury
Sun Aug 07, 2016 7:11 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

he has said in the past he is an alcoholic but that he can control his drinking....we would drink until blackout....when i took him to an aa meeting he told me he needed to quit but told others he was just slowing down...now he says the only reason he wanted to go to the meeting was because at that ...
by ladyluxury
Sun Aug 07, 2016 4:17 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

thank you
by ladyluxury
Sun Aug 07, 2016 3:10 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 19404

alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

just looking for some insite...how probable is it for an alcoholic and recovering alcoholic to stay in a relationship together? long story short...i was about 3 months sober when my bf wanted me to take him to an aa meeting....he stopped drinking about 3 months when he started having one here and th...
by ladyluxury
Fri Oct 30, 2015 3:20 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: no ultimatums
Replies: 6
Views: 3073

Re: no ultimatums

thank you paige...my sponsor thinks i should wait until i am a year sober for alanon, although i am not opposed to it at all. i willcheck out the link and start reading lit on it
by ladyluxury
Thu Oct 29, 2015 6:05 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: no ultimatums
Replies: 6
Views: 3073

no ultimatums

i quit drinking a little over 6 months ago. at the time bf did not we were getting really rocky. when i was about 4 months sober he decided to quit drinking and naturally i was excited but reserved. i had seen this senario from my dad and an ex. they quit drinking because thats what they thought peo...
by ladyluxury
Sat Sep 05, 2015 3:35 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Opinion Needed
Replies: 21
Views: 6032

Re: Opinion Needed

i am in search of a sponsor. i had a temp one while i was in texas where my sobriety began and now i am back home. i had one here but with advise of my temp one fom tx she is no longer my sponsor due to some issues. i guess i didnt really think i was seeking relationship advise but i guess it kinda ...
by ladyluxury
Fri Sep 04, 2015 4:38 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Opinion Needed
Replies: 21
Views: 6032

Re: Opinion Needed

thank you all for you're responses.i just waant to say this is not a new relationship...weve been together for 8 yrs. i do have to say no matter what i am happier now he is not drinking. i did learn that if he continued drinking and i did not we were not going to make it. i try to live and let live....
by ladyluxury
Tue Sep 01, 2015 10:23 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Opinion Needed
Replies: 21
Views: 6032

Re: Opinion Needed

Thank you. That is very true of the "the only requirement.....desire to stop drinking" I did not look at it that way, I guess because drinking/drugging either way its a "high". BUT AA is for alcoholics and there is NA for narcotics. Going to separate meetings is defiantly ideal and I would prefer it...
by ladyluxury
Tue Sep 01, 2015 8:15 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Opinion Needed
Replies: 21
Views: 6032

Opinion Needed

I am just wondering if my thinking about this is correct. I am almost 5 months sober now, for a little more than 4 of those months my boyfriend continued drinking, not the problem. Roughly 3 wks ago he decided he was done drinking also but has only been to 1 aa meeting. Ok now for opinion part.....i...