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by D'oh
Mon Jul 27, 2020 4:47 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How much is Sponsorship from the Founders/Early Pioneers and how much is accretion?
Replies: 6
Views: 142

Re: How much is Sponsorship from the Founders/Early Pioneers and how much is accretion?

Could say a lot about this post from my perspective and 30 plus years sober. By why? we all deal with this disease in our own ways and some find success and others are not so lucky. I will add 1 thing. I don't find a LOT written on sponsorship, but I find a LOT of assumptions, such as: Read Dr Bob ...
by D'oh
Thu Jul 23, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Detox and meeting question
Replies: 13
Views: 4299

Re: Detox and meeting question

Welcome Molly! 1 Day at a Time, can be 1 Hour at a Time, even 1 Minute at a time. But contact with other Recovering Alcoholics helps. (both of them)
by D'oh
Fri Jul 17, 2020 7:31 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."
Replies: 5
Views: 337

Re: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."

Our own thinking is Turned Over in the 3rd Step. Then the House Cleaning, Cleaning out the Obstacles in the way. Eventually getting to the 11th Step, and it's Promises. In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspira...
by D'oh
Fri Jul 17, 2020 3:57 am
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."
Replies: 5
Views: 337

Re: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."

Selfishness—self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity , we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some...
by D'oh
Thu Jul 16, 2020 9:34 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Purpose of Step 1
Replies: 9
Views: 139

Re: The Purpose of Step 1

Step 1 started as "Absolute Hopelessness" Bill's written 6 Steps It then became "Complete Defeat" Adapted 6 Steps. The 12 and 12, Step 1 Starts "Who cares to admit "Complete Defeat?" Practically no one. For Me, "Complete Defeat" is more than just Alcohol, it was "Life on my Terms" Otherwise it would...
by D'oh
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How many times did Bill Wilson do the steps?
Replies: 10
Views: 191

Re: How many times did Bill Wilson do the steps?

Maybe there is confusion between Bill doing the steps vs helping others do the steps; and your friend thinks that helping others counted a doing the steps. A Great Point, I know I learn something every Commitment Group that I have been in. Either as a Chair/Co Chair person, or just a Member. What e...
by D'oh
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:37 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: choice
Replies: 9
Views: 560

Re: choice

Of course "We" have a "Choice". However, the Consequences, well Ain't Pretty, and Few, make it back. And it is a Progressive Illness, we get Worse, not Better. We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control. All...
by D'oh
Fri Jun 26, 2020 9:35 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

My question is when did this all start? How did the programme become that? I do not want an argument - far from it. I simply have a huge disconnect, or a gap in my knowledge, which is getting bigger, in my mind between what the programme is in the book and what some (more and more, it seems) sponso...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 22, 2020 9:20 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 615

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

A long story about "Why" but very understandable Today (any ways) My Second Sponsors Home Work at 6 weeks Sober was pages 83-86 at night and 86-88 Every Morning. Yes Steps 10 and 11, and I was barely on Step 2 at the time. So confusing. But it starts "Yes, there is a Long Period of Reconstruction ah...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 22, 2020 9:45 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 615

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

dralius wrote:
Mon Jun 22, 2020 8:33 am
DaveP1951 wrote:
Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:13 am
Quite simply "Attraction rather than promotion."
I am a living example for her. She says she is happy that I am sober. That she has back the man she married.
Preciously. and You are not Happy because she isn't sober.
by D'oh
Thu Jun 11, 2020 7:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The right program
Replies: 14
Views: 647

Re: The right program

Who cares to admit Complete Defeat? Practically No One, of course. ""UNLESS" I have come in both as a "scarcely more than a Potential" and one who "Went through the 10 or 15 years of Literal Hell". "Complete Defeat" comes much easier the Second way. But, I can also tell you, That I was never Alone,...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 08, 2020 7:25 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ashamed to go back to aa
Replies: 9
Views: 508

Re: Ashamed to go back to aa

Hi David, Don't be ashamed, I made it back in and it's been the Best Part of my Life.

It is not the Relapse that matters, it is What was learnt from going through the pain and anguish.
by D'oh
Tue May 26, 2020 6:32 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I get a sponsor?
Replies: 7
Views: 996

Re: How do I get a sponsor?

Find a Member that has what you want, then ask them "How did you get it?"

That simple.
by D'oh
Thu May 21, 2020 5:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 1094

Re: Running the show

After truly turning your Will and Life over to your Higher Power Is any Merit yours? But at the same time, doing your HP's will to your Best, you cannot Fail. What ever Happens, is exactly what is meant to Happen.

What you do with that Merit is yours. We are just along for the Ride.
by D'oh
Wed May 20, 2020 7:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 1094

Re: Running the show

We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. One of the Promises (11th Step) for me After the first 9 Steps,...