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by tomsteve
Wed Nov 25, 2020 5:12 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Inductive Reasoning
Replies: 12
Views: 79

Re: Inductive Reasoning

What ability did I have to "figure this out?" Where in the hell was I getting my data? peter, i thank you for the early morning laugh. i laugh because this sends me back to early recovery. i wasnt much to asking questions because i thought i was so smart i could figure it out. reading the big book,...
by tomsteve
Sun Nov 15, 2020 5:33 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Anxiety surrounding the first chair/speaking in meetings
Replies: 7
Views: 2152

Re: Anxiety surrounding the first chair/speaking in meetings

1st open talk i did, i rode with my sponsor to the place. along the way, i started getting jitters. "dam! im gettin jittery-whats up with that?" "my sponsor:" i dont know. what ya thinkkin?" "ive never done this. dont wanna say a bunch of crap that dont mean nothing or go on a drunkalogue." my spons...
by tomsteve
Sun Nov 15, 2020 5:30 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsor doesnt contact me
Replies: 5
Views: 82

Re: Sponsor doesnt contact me

hope youre feeling better. i went through a pretty serious cancer battle. went through chemo that i was admitted to the hospital for. i was 150 miles away from home. sponsor never called but i called him. i had numbers to call and i did. i liked to share my misery with my AA friends!!LOLOLOLOL it wo...
by tomsteve
Tue Nov 10, 2020 3:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Gratitude tips
Replies: 10
Views: 148

Re: Gratitude tips

Do you think you need to be truly spiritually on your game to feel the flow of gratitude?. Is this possible through hard times? And can you force it? :?: absolutely dont need to be spiritually fit to practice gratitude and is possible through hard times. i was diagnosed stage 3 metastatic melanoma ...
by tomsteve
Thu Oct 29, 2020 5:45 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Help me to understand!
Replies: 28
Views: 486

Re: Help me to understand!

Hello, I'm struggling a bit with the "finding a higher power" concept. I'd like to know: 1. Were you raised in a religious background and did you then return to it? 2. What is your concept of a higher power? 3. How do you communicate with him/her/it? 4. How does having a relationship with your high...
by tomsteve
Thu Oct 22, 2020 9:48 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Dark Night of the Soul
Replies: 22
Views: 393

Re: The Dark Night of the Soul

i believe one of the greatest things ive read from dr bob is this: There are two or three things that flashed into my mind on which it would be fitting to lay a little emphasis. One is the simplicity of our program. Let's not louse it all up with Freudian complexes and things that are interesting to...
by tomsteve
Mon Oct 12, 2020 5:11 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: I think I need a new sponsor
Replies: 6
Views: 219

Re: I think I need a new sponsor

it reads to me that the motive is in the right place. it reads like its gotten from your head to your heart that this is a life or death matter and youre willing to do the work. imo, a sponsor should listen to a sponsee when they mention something like this. its saying they want to grow and learn mo...
by tomsteve
Mon Oct 12, 2020 5:01 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 35 years sober
Replies: 7
Views: 204

Re: 35 years sober

congrats!
ya never have to do them first 35 years again! =biggrin
by tomsteve
Mon Sep 14, 2020 7:27 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Continue to watch for ...
Replies: 11
Views: 394

Re: Continue to watch for ...

my power greater than me doesnt want me to be kindly and tolerant of pedophiles,rapists, or animal abusers.
by tomsteve
Sun Sep 13, 2020 5:08 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Continue to watch for ...
Replies: 11
Views: 394

Re: Continue to watch for ...

this is one step that not enough is written of in the bb- Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our...
by tomsteve
Wed Sep 09, 2020 1:04 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Crashed and burned
Replies: 11
Views: 437

Re: Crashed and burned

glad youre able to make it back when so many arent. one thing i learned a couple years in: MY program is designed to lead me to a drink. i came extremely close. MY program had me on a dry drunk with the only thing being done was going to meetings. MY program tossed out everything THE program of AA t...
by tomsteve
Sun Aug 23, 2020 2:50 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Progress Not Perfection (ugh) - a misquote?
Replies: 18
Views: 8710

Re: Progress Not Perfection (ugh) - a misquote?

D'oh wrote:
Wed Aug 01, 2018 4:44 am
3 questions

1, What is Perfection?
2, How does one know when they get there?
3, What does one do when they get there?


Of Myself, I am nothing. Thy will, not Mine be done.
2 year old question but:
1- finished;complete
2- they die
3-thank God
by tomsteve
Tue Aug 18, 2020 3:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?
Replies: 8
Views: 370

Re: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?

Spirit Flower wrote:
Sun Aug 16, 2020 7:06 pm
good topic. Which came first? The chicken or the egg?
bacon. bacon came first. =biggrin
by tomsteve
Sun Aug 16, 2020 8:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?
Replies: 8
Views: 370

Re: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?

i dont have to agree with everything bill said.

malady,disease,and sickness all mean the same thing.
by tomsteve
Tue Aug 11, 2020 1:52 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsor facing difficult times
Replies: 5
Views: 300

Re: Sponsor facing difficult times

if allagations arent true then whats the problem? theyre just allagations.

whats the right thing to do- he told you with," he is taking some time out & suggested to me that I should look for another Sponsor."

these are situations that the steps are for.
start at step one on just this.