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by AlisonT
Mon Jan 20, 2014 6:52 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Hosting a Party
Replies: 6
Views: 2245

Re: Hosting a Party

I always do BYOB. I state it like this - I don't drink, I don't care if you do. I also make sure that everyone takes the leftovers home. You don't want a half bottle of Scotch left in your cupboard after the party.
by AlisonT
Thu Jan 09, 2014 8:59 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: A Disturbing Phone Call
Replies: 28
Views: 5360

Re: A Disturbing Phone Call

There is a difference in this case Tosh, the spiritual tool kit has been laid at her feet and she is choosing not to pick it up. And Aries has already offered to take her to a meeting. When Ebby went to Bill and Bill to Dr. Bob, AA was a new idea. It didn't even have a name yet. This woman has been ...
by AlisonT
Wed Jan 08, 2014 8:20 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Am I Alone In This?
Replies: 8
Views: 5288

Re: Am I Alone In This?

Welcome. I have been going through the same sort of questions - How much do I allow someone back into my life who has hurt me in the past? I've learned that forgiveness does not always mean reconciliation. However if someone is working a program or trying to I tend to give them the benefit of the do...
by AlisonT
Wed Jan 08, 2014 6:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes it feels like the gears aren't clicking.
Replies: 4
Views: 1466

Re: Sometimes it feels like the gears aren't clicking.

I can tell you that even after 25 years sober my feeling of connection to my higher power comes and goes. Sometimes I feel like all the gears are clicking and sometimes I feel stalled. I don't think any sober alcoholic will tell you differently. What I do when that happens is continue to go through ...
by AlisonT
Wed Jan 08, 2014 6:23 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Nightmare Of My Life
Replies: 12
Views: 3446

Re: Nightmare Of My Life

Please try some AA meetings. You will not only find help in staying sober there but also new friends who will support you in staying sober.
by AlisonT
Tue Dec 31, 2013 3:22 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Stressing at a meeting
Replies: 20
Views: 3753

Re: Stressing at a meeting

I always say if an AA meeting hasn't pissed you off recently you're not going to enough of them. I remember one particular meeting where I was speaking for my sponsee who had just gotten hear first year. The format of the meeting was that there were two speakers and you each were supposed to talk fo...
by AlisonT
Sun Dec 29, 2013 2:21 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Love and tolerance of others.....
Replies: 25
Views: 21992

Re: Love and tolerance of others.....

I went through much of my life before sobriety and quite a while afterwards with what I call the "wimp / Expletive" syndrome. I would fold and give in and accept until I had enough and then I would blow, destroying relationships in the process. In sobriety I have learned to find that middle ground b...
by AlisonT
Wed Dec 11, 2013 7:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Help! Long Term Treatment Option
Replies: 4
Views: 1412

Re: Help! Long Term Treatment Option

You also might want to check with the facility and see if they really want her to stop ALL medications. If they require her to stop all doctor prescribed medications it is not a place where I would want to place a loved one.
by AlisonT
Fri Nov 29, 2013 4:19 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: All the resentments i pick up are in meetings
Replies: 20
Views: 4653

Re: All the resentments i pick up are in meetings

I have always found pg 419 (or 451 3rd edition) to be very helpful in this situation.
by AlisonT
Tue Nov 19, 2013 9:06 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Recovering or Recovered.
Replies: 60
Views: 12448

Re: Recovering or Recovered.

I think Tosh alluded to this best when he talked about the flu. The best way I have heard this described is I can recover from a bullet wound but it doesn't mean I am bullet proof. I have recovered from a seeming hopeless state of mind and body but I can go back there if I choose to drink.
by AlisonT
Sun Oct 27, 2013 10:39 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: I don't think I ever got past step 2
Replies: 11
Views: 4385

Re: I don't think I ever got past step 2

I think far too many sponsors put the wrong emphasis on step 2. As Blue Moon said it is a statement of the solution. And step 3 is a decision to follow the solution. You do not need to define your higher power at step two, merely note that others have recovered by using the solution which is steps 4...
by AlisonT
Fri Oct 04, 2013 2:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Discouraged
Replies: 45
Views: 9413

Re: Discouraged

The people in the meeting seem judgmental and pompous. Do you really want what they have?
by AlisonT
Fri Oct 04, 2013 2:07 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Advice anyone? Still facing consequences with spouse...
Replies: 28
Views: 4628

Re: Advice anyone? Still facing consequences with spouse...

What the original poster brought up is not an outside issue. bluemoon hit the nail on the head, it is about control. I've seen it very often in cases where one spouse is newly sober and the other is non-alcoholic. One spouse is saying "I'm sober now and I want my rightful place in the family" and th...
by AlisonT
Thu Oct 03, 2013 11:28 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Is it normal to have massive anxiety talking at meetings?
Replies: 30
Views: 6233

Re: Is it normal to have massive anxiety talking at meetings

Many times Kells I have spoken at a meeting and I was sure that what came out was total gobbledygook and then someone would come up to me after the meeting and tell me that what I said helped them. We alcoholics understand each other.
by AlisonT
Fri Sep 20, 2013 2:52 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: want to come back but not comfortable going to meetings
Replies: 23
Views: 4815

Re: want to come back but not comfortable going to meetings

One of the reasons I felt alienated from AA was that I felt I had to make a choice between getting the psychiatric (medication) help I needed and the program. I found that there was a lot of dogmatic thinking around not taking mind or mood altering substances. My husband was also a reason as he bec...